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[(Anonymous)]

I've been involved in several kink memes and this one is hands down my favorite. (Incidentally, the worst/meanest one was the Sherlock Kink Meme, sorry Sherlock fandom, and I wasn't even really involved in it. The worst one that I was heavily involved in was the Glee Angst Meme.)

Everyone here is lovely and kind and beautiful and fantastic and I'm so thrilled that this is what the Daredevil kink meme is like, especially the parts where people have giant conversations about prompts before they ever get filled.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, the Sherlock kink meme had some massive drama, but I love that it formed the Sherlock Rant Post. Which is still going, years later. Most of the posts are not actually about Sherlock anymore, it's just a community of anons talking about their lives, with some occasional trolling and assholeishness occasionally.

[(Anonymous)]

I started my fandom journey sith the Sherlock Kink Meme and it was such a toxic place. I picked up an awful lot of bad habits there (lowkey kinkshaming, open flaming, passive-aggressive counterprompting, trashing people's identities because they didn't share my ships...) I had no idea that wasn't just how fandom was, and it's taken a good while to unlearn that.

And because it was a relatively safe way to explore my kinks, chief among which is noncon so it probably could have been worse, I stayed there for about three years. When I quit - because Moffat trashed asexuality as "boring" and I didn't want anything to do with Sherlock any more, o gods of irony forgive me - my anxiety got so much better. I got so much more sleep, worried so much less about what person was going to pick my latest fill apart, stopped isolating myself, became kinder IRL. And it was a holistic thing, and other factors did contribute to my improved wellbeing, but I still think leaving the Sherlock Kink Meme was the best thing my nineteen year old self did. I'm ashamed it took so long, but it wasn't quite too late.

So yeah, anon. I feel you. This meme is a healthy place. <3

[(Anonymous)]

Oh gosh, the Sherlock fandom.

That's mainly why I was so uncomfortable with some of the Karen "hate" that was happening here on earlier posts. The hate directed at a lot of the female characters in the Sherlock fandom is unreal, and I eventually left the fandom because I just could not stand the divisiveness and nastiness over Mary any longer. I'm so glad that, for the most part, the lady characters in this fandom aren't being trashed.

I've seen a couple posts in the other prompts on here that were passive-aggressive counterprompting (thank you, for giving a term to that phenomenon), but that doesn't happen much anymore. Thankfully, we have an excellent mod who allows discourse but steps in when it devolves into wank.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh god the Sherlock kink meme. I wasn't even on there very long and they did serious damage to my already low self-esteem. I had to delete my LJ and all my work because they flamed me for first me getting worked up over their general nastiness on the rant meme and then I wrote a very personal fill that everyone tore to shreds and honestly? Even though at the moment my presence in fandom namespace is just about nil and I was on that meme three and a half years ago for like a month I still have anxieties that someone will somehow find me and humiliate me all over again.

God, looking back too the behavior of some people was just shameful because I s2g I was 19 and the people picking on me had to be at least twice my age some of them? What a bunch of assholes.

[(Anonymous)]

Ayrt would like to apologise on behalf of everyone in that fandom and also myself, in case I was one of the people who was awful to you. I'm glad you got out when it went sour, and I hope you find lots more happy spaces.

[(Anonymous)]

<3 Thanks bro. I've been on and off tumblr for a few years and made a lot of great friends that helped me to be comfortable writing about hard things and confident in my work. I try to not be angry and I forgive you if you engaged in that.. I know fandom can bring out the worst in people sometimes. That community just needed serious modding that it wasn't getting. Some people think the freedom in anonymity allowing you to say what you feel means the freedom to be cruel and that's why good mods are so important!