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Re: Kink discovery

[(Anonymous)]

And just to head off anything that people want to comment on about me stating that I can both be turned on and have kinks and be ace, or ace being a kink... well, think what you want. Agree to disagree I guess.

But lots of ace people still masturbate or have private fantasies that they have no interest in actually fulfilling, especially if they're not sex-repulsed. And while being ace is not really a kink per se, it's certainly outside the sexual norm. That's my take on it at least.

Re: Kink discovery

[(Anonymous)]

.... Huh.

I think you just helped me figure out I might also be Ace, anon.

(Every single thing I've read on asexuality is like "You are never turned on, ever" and I'm like: "But what if you still don't want to have sex with anyone????")

Re: Kink discovery

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - :D

That's also why it took me so long to understand it too. For years I felt that I didn't fit in the ace category, and I let people convince me that I just hadn't met the right person yet, or that there must be something medically wrong, or that I needed to just be drunk enough or high enough or relaxed enough and eventually, like magic, I'd suddenly get it.

And then I talked to some other ace people and watched the documentary. And there are plenty of ace people who aren't sex-repulsed or only enjoy sex as a pure fantasy. It kickstarted a journey of self-acceptance and understanding that I'm really grateful for.

So I'm glad to have helped you realize that. Welcome to the club!