I know, it's so frustrating. I imagine it must be worse for you, of course, but it pisses me off too. The worst think is, I'm sure you used to be able to get notifications. I'm sure I've done it on other kinkmemes by logging in to request notifications and then just making sire to re-anon when you post. Maybe that was only on Livejournal though, but I'm fairly sure I've done it here too.