Kilgrave wasn't a dom, like most people think--he was a sub, and he controlled Jessica to use her natural dom-ness against her and force her to dom him in an extremely precise and unnatural way. Being dominant is thus both a thing she needs to control her environment and a trigger in the bedroom, but so is subbing, as he forced her to sub too. The Defenders OT4 navigate with with sub!Matt and/or sub!Danny, possibly by helping Jessica work through the triggers, by finding new kinks, and/or by letting her be a very hands-off dom that mostly just watches the action and doesn't direct.