The line between platonic and romantic is indeed confusing! When researching romantic attraction, the descriptions didn't convince me at all lol. As far as I know, it's absolutely possible to want to platonically live together! At least if you're not/don't want to be in a romantic relationship, which I assume would take precedence for the "living together" part. So maybe it's more of an aro thing, but I wouldn't put living together out of the equation for platonic attraction.
Can't really help you with the one-night stands thing, lol. As soon as a guy shows a minimum of not-platonic interest in me, I tend to back away. Not exactly ghosting but I sure won't reach out anymore. It's probably awful, but I still haven't figured out how to approach the "by the way, I have zero interest in getting physical or being anything that's not friends with you" argument, so I just hope they take the hint. (Not that there's been many guys, but so far it worked.) Anyway, based on my friend's experience, dating apps can help in getting one-night stands.
I used to be waaaay more repulsed about sex in general, then I cautiously tried reading some porn fics (this meme is absolutely guilty) and I'm now far harder to shock/scare away. I'll be honest, usually when I read weird kinks my reaction is to laugh at the sheer absurdity, then I get to the comments and they're all like "hot, so hot!!". I don't get it. Bit it can be fun to read. And I enjoy reading interesting dynamics, which is usually my reason to read fics involving sex scenes. (That's true for written stuff; I still don't want to watch sex scenes, I get pretty annoyed at them in TV shows/movies.) I went on a bit of a tangent, to sum it up: I used to be more repulsed, I'm now fine enough with it as long as it doesn't involve me. That might also be why I tend to stick to m/m (aside from them being the majority anyway): I can't see myself in either of the characters involved in the sex.
I think there's nothing wrong with trying (plenty of aces have sex, for various reasons!), as long as it's not out of external pressure to *do it* (don't get me started on how I hate how society seems to find virgin-shaming acceptable) and both parties are clear on what they want out of the experience, of course. But this goes for any relationship ever, no matter the attraction, I guess.
Re: Fill, maybe...?
As far as I know, it's absolutely possible to want to platonically live together! At least if you're not/don't want to be in a romantic relationship, which I assume would take precedence for the "living together" part. So maybe it's more of an aro thing, but I wouldn't put living together out of the equation for platonic attraction.
Can't really help you with the one-night stands thing, lol. As soon as a guy shows a minimum of not-platonic interest in me, I tend to back away. Not exactly ghosting but I sure won't reach out anymore. It's probably awful, but I still haven't figured out how to approach the "by the way, I have zero interest in getting physical or being anything that's not friends with you" argument, so I just hope they take the hint. (Not that there's been many guys, but so far it worked.)
Anyway, based on my friend's experience, dating apps can help in getting one-night stands.
I used to be waaaay more repulsed about sex in general, then I cautiously tried reading some porn fics (this meme is absolutely guilty) and I'm now far harder to shock/scare away.
I'll be honest, usually when I read weird kinks my reaction is to laugh at the sheer absurdity, then I get to the comments and they're all like "hot, so hot!!". I don't get it. Bit it can be fun to read.
And I enjoy reading interesting dynamics, which is usually my reason to read fics involving sex scenes.
(That's true for written stuff; I still don't want to watch sex scenes, I get pretty annoyed at them in TV shows/movies.)
I went on a bit of a tangent, to sum it up: I used to be more repulsed, I'm now fine enough with it as long as it doesn't involve me. That might also be why I tend to stick to m/m (aside from them being the majority anyway): I can't see myself in either of the characters involved in the sex.
I think there's nothing wrong with trying (plenty of aces have sex, for various reasons!), as long as it's not out of external pressure to *do it* (don't get me started on how I hate how society seems to find virgin-shaming acceptable) and both parties are clear on what they want out of the experience, of course. But this goes for any relationship ever, no matter the attraction, I guess.