I get that! Attraction is confusing. I'm still not exactly sure how romantic attraction is supposed to feel, but I am reasonably confident that I don't feel it. I don't mind sharing, it's just hard for me to define how it is to not feel something instead of feeling it. I guess... When I was a kid, kids my age talked about having crushes, so I wanted to jump on the train too. I couldn't decide who my crush was among like three classmates I found nice. Kind of a shocker finding out later on that you're not supposed to pick who you have a crush on!
In general, I've never been very interested in finding a romantic partner (sex was never in the equation, I didn't know the words and I assumed I was hetero [everyone is, no?], but I was and am sex-repulsed so I always knew I didn't want that. Not when I was so young at least, maybe I would have wanted it in the future... spoiler alert: no). I don't feel butterflies in my stomach, whatever that means. I don't want a romantic life partner. I would be very much down for a platonic one, but I'll try to stay on track XD
I'd say, being aromantic for me means that I treasure my friendships more than anything. I don't understand the world's obsession for romantic love, I wish I could understand my friends' suffering when they are single/pining for someone they barely know but have a crush on, but I just don't get it. I don't want to marry, I don't want to kiss. Of course, some aromantics feel differently. [I'm not even completely sure I'm on the far end of the aromantic spectrum; I think I might be demi—I would have felt romantic attraction exactly once, for my exbestfriend—but I am not sure because: attraction is confusing.]
Welp, here's to oversharing XD
I'm happy to find a fellow ace on the kinkmeme, too! It really feels like "what am I even doing here" reading some prompts here, but then there are others who are really interesting so.
Re: Fill, maybe...?
I don't mind sharing, it's just hard for me to define how it is to not feel something instead of feeling it. I guess... When I was a kid, kids my age talked about having crushes, so I wanted to jump on the train too. I couldn't decide who my crush was among like three classmates I found nice. Kind of a shocker finding out later on that you're not supposed to pick who you have a crush on!
In general, I've never been very interested in finding a romantic partner (sex was never in the equation, I didn't know the words and I assumed I was hetero [everyone is, no?], but I was and am sex-repulsed so I always knew I didn't want that. Not when I was so young at least, maybe I would have wanted it in the future... spoiler alert: no). I don't feel butterflies in my stomach, whatever that means. I don't want a romantic life partner.
I would be very much down for a platonic one, but I'll try to stay on track XD
I'd say, being aromantic for me means that I treasure my friendships more than anything. I don't understand the world's obsession for romantic love, I wish I could understand my friends' suffering when they are single/pining for someone they barely know but have a crush on, but I just don't get it. I don't want to marry, I don't want to kiss.
Of course, some aromantics feel differently.
[I'm not even completely sure I'm on the far end of the aromantic spectrum; I think I might be demi—I would have felt romantic attraction exactly once, for my exbestfriend—but I am not sure because: attraction is confusing.]
Welp, here's to oversharing XD
I'm happy to find a fellow ace on the kinkmeme, too! It really feels like "what am I even doing here" reading some prompts here, but then there are others who are really interesting so.