I've seen a few fics where Daredeviling brings out Matt's kinky side, but what if it's more complicated than that?

Say Matt's been a kinky, subby, masochistic little shit for all his life, but once he starts going vigilante, suddenly he's dealing with real life sexual assault, abuse, violence, trafficking, the whole nine yards. And all that starts to intrude on his sex life. He still wants to be tied up and made to beg, but in the moment, it can feel too real. How does he negotiate the two?