I don't think that the OP anon is trying to suggest that they have issues with behaviour they want changed, or that their essay would be rules that /need/ to be followed.

I mean I interpreted this as just being an attempt to analyse and explain general kinkmeme community behaviours. particularly those that may be unfamiliar to newbies. Like those posts that go into fandom history and explain why people use the exclamation marks to denote AUs/characteristics and what not.

Behaviour patterns that the community adopts as a whole unconsciously that are interesting to explore rather than rules and regulations.