OP would like to echo an above sentiment. We all have days like that. For the record, I think there was fault on all sides and you were justified in letting people know your NoTP just as they were justified in speculating on possible directions, and that post alone wouldn't have got my back up too much. It contributed but was also clearly more about communication issues than anyone intentionally hurting anyone else.

Hope you've had better days since, anon. :)